And an addendum

 Lessons learnt so far:

1. Be kind to trans people and all members of the rainbow community.

2. Everyone likes to eat well.

3. Biryani is a fine food to serve guests at weddings.

4. Everyone likes to be treated as though they matter.

5. Ice cream toppings set the tone for long after, too.  

6. Be good to guests at weddings and feed them well. 

7. Young people and their flexibility are excellent resources.

8. The choice to marry is that, a choice.  

9. Let (mostly) good words come out of my mouth.

10. I will never have a monstrous house with huge rooms.  Scott and I will always have room for those who wish to come.